MEDIUMSHIP FAQ's

01. CAN WE REALLY CONNECT WITH OUR DEPARTED LOVED ONES? 

Yes! I have connected with and talked to thousands of departed loved ones for countless people, including me. When we pass away, we have the same 'Soul connections' that we had in our lifetime with people who are alive on Earth. Our departed loved ones are still around us every day and connect with us every time we need them, regardless of whether you "feel" them or not. 
 
PLEASE never give any money to (or listen to) any Medium that says they need to "help" your departed loved one because they are "lost", "stuck somewhere" or "in danger" etc. It is a scam, or the 'medium' has little idea of what really happens when we die. We are perfectly fine after passing. We do not need any help with anything. 
 
All of your loved ones are together (I get asked that a lot); no one is separated. They do many things in "the Divine" besides visiting us every day and seeing each other. 
 
During your reading, they can give you guidance, answers that are beneficial for you to know, express their unconditional love for you, and will communicate what they want or need to. 

02. HOW WILL I KNOW IT'S MY DEPARTED LOVED ONES YOU'RE SPEAKING WITH? 
 

Fortunately, they give me validations to let you know who they are. Their personality and emotions always come through, and sometimes a physical description, how many children you have or they had, around how long ago they passed away, tell or show me something that is specific to you or to them that I would have no way of knowing, examples of what they did or liked while they were alive, something you have of theirs, just so many ways. 
 
Only sometimes do they tell me how they passed away when you already know. BUT they may tell how they died if you honestly don't know and ask me to ask them. I have no idea why. Please understand any medium would drown in information if we had to get every detail they wanted to share with you. Departed loved ones are always very kind and good to me as a medium. I love doing mediumship. 
 
Normally all of your departed loved one's validations will be very clear immediately. Our departed loved ones still have 'free will' to express what and how they want to. If Grandma was very feisty in her lifetime, she will come through the same way to talk to you now, so you recognize her. They can be funny, emotional, healing, encouraging, etc. 
 
I ask you to keep an open mind and let go of any set expectations. While I try very hard to understand the specific validations they give, don't waste your session testing me or expecting me to mention something very specific because you are in resistance and focused on one thing. Please enjoy the time connecting with your loved ones. 
 
It's your sacred time to connect with them, please don't miss the real validations they do give. 

03. ARE OUR LOVED ONES EVER STILL HURTING, ANGRY, CONFUSED OR SAD?

No, they are not. Once we leave this physical body, we are freed from the human feelings of negativity, anger, guilt, disappointment, emotional or physical pain, confusion, and all the rest. They can feel remorse and want to make amends - but they are not attached to the painful depths of these emotions we as humans are. They still have their own opinions about stuff, but it's not of a negative or angry nature, even if they tended to be negative in life. Our loved ones have gone back to their 'home' between lives where they feel unconditional love, serenity, learning and healing. 
 
No one comes back to connect with someone they love (or even knew for a short time) to say they are still mad that you spilled paint on the couch at 8 years-old, or holding any grudges, resentments or negative emotions. They have taken full accountability after physical death for all their actions in their life during their nonjudgmental "Life Review" and feel blissful and whole again and received all the healing they need. 
 
Departed loved ones also see the things that happened to them during their lifetime in a purposeful, nonjudgmental and objective way (without all the painful, negative human emotions clouding it). They understand that you and others make mistakes, have your own great pain and confusion, and we are just doing our best while on Earth. 
 
We have all had many lifetimes of good and bad - so there is NO judgment, anger, rejection, disappointment, expectations of what you should or should not do, anger, resentment, etc., towards us from our departed ever. 

 04. ARE WE EVER ALONE, SCARED, OR LOST RIGHT AFTER WE DIE? 

No, we have done this so many times and "death" is an incredibly natural and beautiful process for each Soul. Every Soul is always accompanied by their Master Spirit Guide, an amazing number of Angels, and their departed loved ones at physical death. 
 
We are never alone, frightened, angry, or surprised when we die. It’s a conscious choice on a Soul-level to take an “exit point” to leave this life. It’s a huge orchestration. Nothing would change it! When the Soul (person) decides to leave this life, it doesn’t matter what you wish you would’ve done; nothing at all would have changed it. 
 
No departed Soul is “afraid” to crossover and go to their nonjudgmental Life Review. Any fear or beliefs they had in life would be gone as soon as they died. And everyone goes to the same beautiful place as I said before. 
 
Our departed loved ones are NEVER attached to HOW they die. No one is. We do not mourn or are upset after death by the way we left this Earth. We have had so many lifetimes and died in so many ways, so we are always okay. That’s a huge misconception in the New Age world. 
 
There are no "lost Souls," even if people believe that the departed Soul is saying they don't know where they are or are "stuck" (etc.), like in an old house or "haunted" place they are appearing. The ghost hunters or medium "talking" to the departed Souls personal belief systems are so strong that they can only see them as lost or scared, etc. There is no truth to those beliefs. 

05. DO ANY PEOPLE GO TO A DIFFERENT PLACE AFTER DEATH WHO COMMITTED SUICIDE, OR WERE VERY HARMFUL TO OTHERS? 
 

Definitively, NO. I feel bad when anyone gives others the false belief that we go to different places after death, like a punishment or for any reason. People who committed suicide do not come through like heavy or different energy, or in a different place, or are always sad or upset. "The Divine," The Source, or God - whatever your belief is - loves us all the same. We are never judged or punished; every Soul is deeply loved and special. 
 
We ALL go to the same place and there is NO separation based on anything - religion, culture, location, misdeeds; or how we died, etc. There is no such thing as hell, demons, possessions, evil entities, lost angry Souls, etc. That's Hollywood, or psychic mediums with archaic fear-based beliefs, or they’re trying to scam you. 
 
That would be a punishment and horrible to be "lost" after life, or hanging around unhappy or full of rage, and there is no concept of punishment or judgment with the Divine. 
 
Everyone has 'free will' to make 100% of our own choices while we are here, so naturally some people struggle more in life with the choices they make, and with what happens to them. Yet we are all deeply loved by 'the Divine' and cherished the same. 
 
Souls that were very harmful and heinous to others go through a nonjudgmental 'Life Review' after physical death, like all Souls do. Like all Souls they take full accountability for all of their actions in this lifetime. No one is ever afraid to go to their life review; that is just false beliefs systems to believe otherwise. 
 
We all go over every experience we had during our lifetime at our Life Review after passing; we examine everything in a reflective, nonjudgmental and non-punitive way. We thoroughly discuss every experience and why we made the choices we did. We also find out why others did what they did that we did not know at the time (with no judgement). 
 
We also talk about all the good we did in life; the good and life-saving things we did for others that we had no idea of. Also, the huge impact we made on others and their life. Everyone's Life Review is reflective, healing, and positive. Every Soul gets as much healing as they need after every Earthly lifetime. 
 
It is believed by some that if a Soul comes back more than one lifetime doing horrible things to others, after their Life Review and during healing, 'the Divine' will take out the tiny portion of the Soul that keeps making horrific choices so they can be free of that. 

06. HOW LONG SHOULD I WAIT TO SEE A MEDIUM AFTER SOMEONE I WANT TO CONNECT WITH HAS PASSED AWAY? 
 

For your benefit you may want to wait at least a few weeks to make an appointment with me after the passing of a friend or family member because we are very upset normally right after the passing. I have never had a loved one not come through no matter how long ago or recently they passed. 
 
I have clearly connected with departed loved ones two days after passing. When I first started doing mediumship years ago, when I connected with my friend's male friend who died two weeks before, he looked like beautiful swirling energy to me - and I saw two of his departed loved ones who had passed before him watching him. His grandfather who passed a month before him was watching him, and then his grandmother who passed a year before that was watching them both. 
 
My mediumship has greatly evolved since then, but it was so comforting and amazing to see that myself. 
 
We still have 'free will' even after passing, so it's common and perfectly okay for a Soul to stay around longer after passing if they want to comfort family and friends and visit different places until choose to cross over. This would only be for a few weeks at most. No Soul goes directly to the Divine; this is a very natural process.